Read ‘Power of Human Mind’, before you start here.
Our experiences are stored in the human mind as positive and negative files. Example, if you like Mathematics, then you will have a file named ‘Mathematics’ with positive charge assigned to it. Now, if mind is only energy distribution, then don’t you think it is easy to have charges assigned?
Childhood is the most important stage in our lives. We are’ Who We Are’ today mainly cause of our childhood experiences. Our characteristics, the personality we are proud of, our behavior, our attitude gets shaped during our childhood. Let me take an instance to elucidate how memories are piled into our mind.
A child who begins to explore his/her world tries many different things that are unusual to adults. The child does not know how things work in this world. It doesn’t know why electric sockets are placed on walls. Its natural tendency is to check what’s in it. Now, the child is taking initiative to understand its world beyond parents & toys. If the child at this point is ridiculed or frightened, it will lose its natural disposition to explore. A series of reprimanding makes the child feel guilty of its actions.
Here, the mind tries a new experience of ‘Exploration’ and receives bad response from the society so the file that gets stored is ‘Exploration’ assigned with negative charge. In contradiction, if the child is encouraged to explore when it first initiates then the child grows up to think on its own, developing more creative skills.
The three most common negative emotions that are associated with human development are: Trust,Love(Lack of) & Guilt.
Yes, most of us carry many scars from our childhood and some from our Past Life(Did I read Past Life, Yes, you read it right!) Now, don’t ask me if I believe in it. I am exploring and if experiences of others are just theirs, then maybe it is relatively true with respect to the person experiencing it.
We may not remember the exact incident that created the scar consciously but remember our Subconscious mind that stores all files does remember it. Hence, our actions are indirectly directed from those scars. I am sure most of us face trust issues, where we can’t trust anyone, no matter what; though our current experiences with person has been absolutely pleasant. The reason could be somewhere in the past with someone else, where you were misguided by trust.
Encouragement is ‘The’ incentive in life. Everyone yearns for an acknowledgment from the society(Family, Friends and beyond). It doesn’t even matter if you don’t get tangible rewards but if you are praised or encouraged, it would make your day! Guilt comes out of lack of support from the society initially and of course as you grow there are different ways one can accumulate guilt but no action independently creates guilt. One feels guilty cause of the response from the others.
Lack of care and affection is the most common emotional disturbance that many adults go through. It goes without saying that someone to care for you is the basic necessity of life. Love, Trust & Guilt are often interlinked. One may lead to another.
I believe understanding how emotions stir up in an individual helps us to better view the people around us and also to handle ourselves better. We stop becoming judgmental of others' action and begin to appreciate others' view point. Life becomes more meaningful when you can understand that someone’s action is just not stemming from one particular incident. I continue to learn and garner more information on how the mind works, the more I unravel; the more interesting it gets. One thing I can vouch for, it has changed my perception of life.